Ever since I can remember, I’ve wanted to do something of great significance with my life. When I was in kindergarten, that meant becoming the best teacher on the planet. Then in high school, I imagined myself evolving into a famous TV and movie personality. The closest I ever came to that dream was being accepted into the Broadcast Journalism program at my local college. I loved writing stories and being the lunchtime anchor, delivering interesting and intriguing up-to-the-minute newsworthy tidbits.
My dreams of being a famous TV personality slowly began to fade when I realized that I would have to move away from my safe and comfortable home without any promise of either fame or fortune. That was a move I wasn’t willing to take, especially since I met the man of my dreams only two days into the college program. I believe that everything happens for a reason; with that being said, I know that even though my college career didn’t pan out, I am still married to the man with the gorgeous green eyes who winked at me from across the room that pleasantly perfect fall afternoon.
It’s funny how the twists and turns of life take you in directions you never dreamed possible! We’ve been married now for 30 years, and together during blissful times and devastating moments, we have raised two incredibly charming children, who are now both independent adults, who are following their hearts and facing the world head on!
When I pause to look at how wonderful my life truly is, I realize that I consciously choose to surround myself with fabulously supportive and like-minded friends and colleagues. I am extremely blessed to have as my foundation, a wonderful family who loves me unconditionally. And, what’s even more incredible, is that I wake up each perfect morning excited and full of anticipation for the glorious day that lies ahead of me.
Today I use my gifts as a non-denominational minister to break down barriers. I say this because when I was first introduced to the idea of becoming a minister, my initial response was “Are you kidding me?” I wasn’t saying this out of disrespect; I was merely shocked at the ‘grandness’ of the proposal; to think that someone as normal and down-to-earth as I was, could even be considered a ‘woman of the cloth’.
Then after some serious consideration, the proverbial ‘two-by-four’ hit me! I knew in that pivotal moment, that I could use my title as a Reverend to break down walls and build alliances, so that others wouldn’t look at me as someone who was unapproachable or aloof, but as a kind, compassionate and approachable human being, just like them. I knew that I had the potential to not only blossom into a modern-day, contemporary New Thought Minister, but to also try my wings as a “conscious entrepreneur”; someone who lives the concepts of spirituality in everyday life and in business practices. I also knew in my heart of hearts that I could use my influence to not only show, but to encourage others to do the same, by helping them to be who they aspired to be in whatever ways spoke to them.
I must say, it sure has been an incredible experience over the past 10 years. I have searched long and hard to find my way on the path as an individual who is not willing to sacrifice integrity to fit the mould that others would deem necessary. And because of this incredible journey, I believe that it has become my purpose and mission this lifetime to help others, especially women, to do the same.
From the bottom of my heart, I thank you for taking the time to read just a snippet of my personal story. If you have any questions, thoughts or comments, feel free to connect with me as I would love to hear your thoughts! firstname.lastname@example.org
Written by Louis de Bernieres
Photos taken by Klic Photography
Love is a temporary madness,
it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides.
And when it subsides you have to make a decision.
You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined
that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.
Because this is what love is.
Those that truly love have roots that grow
towards each other underground,
and when all the pretty blossoms have
fallen from their branches,
they find that they are one tree and not two.
Love is not breathlessness,
it is not excitement,
it is not a state of eternal passion.
That is just being “in love”.
Love itself is what is left over
when being in love has burned away,
This is both an art and a fortunate accident.